The toxic underbelly of journalism coming out to appease their masters?

Disclaimer: I am NOT talking on behalf of Sushant Singh Rajput’s father (my father-in-law). This is an independent opinion. Also, I am NOT a mental health professional so whatever I write about mental health is my own understanding, so please do not use it as an expert opinion.

It’s Saturday here in the US and I received several messages regarding an article by one Jyoti Yadav which said that “the way Sushant’s family has reacted says a lot about the burden of being a son in a Bihari family”. It also said, “What has escaped popular attention is the toxic family structure of cow-belt India, especially Bihar, and how it treats its precious sons”. I wanted to let it go since, despite the tragedy in the family, I have to work just like many of Sushant’s other family members and after a long work-week, I was reluctant about addressing these issues. But decided otherwise since I found out that this was affecting not only my loved ones but people from Bihar in general.

Let me say at the outset that the aforementioned article is unintelligent in many ways and is extremely offensive, not only to Sushant’s family but to Indian families in general. I will address them one by one. Let this be a warning to the unsophisticated writers to not indulge in a disingenuous analysis of the situation.

First, let me handle the mental health piece. 

I have already written a long blog post chiding Barkha Dutt on her handling of the situation here: Barkha, Sushant is NOT the opportunity to spread awareness about mental health! I explain why.  In my post, I had written a paragraph that was fairly kind to Susan because many others don’t even believe her credentials or her story.  Quoting the paragraph here- “My third point is a question on the validity of Susan’s claims. Diagnosing mental disorders is an arduous task and diagnosing someone Bipolar (I or II) is even more so. Not only do you have to observe the person very closely, but you also have to observe them over long periods of time (it takes six years on average to diagnose after the onset of symptoms). Susan very conveniently diagnoses Sushant in less than two months (perhaps over a couple of appointments), with a life-changing diagnosis. And then she has the audacity to disclose this information in the public domain. If we are to believe Susan, another thing which does become clear is that it was Rhea indeed who was seeking treatment for Sushant and not Sushant himself. Prior to October/November 2019 (and certainly prior to meeting Rhea), as far as I know, no one who has lived with Sushant has ever complained about his mental health, nor has Sushant himself.”

Jyoti interpreted it to say that Vishal cannot believe that Sushant was depressed. She also adds, “The fact that the family doesn’t want to accept that their son could have been depressed even after his death, shows how little they know about this issue”. First up, please read my post more carefully to understand what I have said about mental health. Mental health is an outcome of biology and the environment. Let’s just assume for a second (hypothetically) that Sushant was biologically predisposed for depression. You still need to understand the environmental factors which led to his alleged depression. If hostile environmental conditions are brought out in the FIR, that’s because Sushant’s family in India were aware of the situation created by Rhea and her stooges, as exposed in their complaints to the Bandra DCP in February 2020 and SOS calls Sushant gave to his family in November 2019, January 2020, and June 2020. Those hostile environmental conditions could include gaslighting, blackmailing, alienating, covert medication, overt overmedication, and so on. I am not saying that a very hostile environment is necessary for people to fall into depression but in this case, the presence of a hostile environment seems to ring true. If it is proven in the court of law without foul play that Sushant suffered from depression without any hostile conditions created by Rhea, then I will be the first one to accept it with dignity.  

The second aspect of mental health which Jyoti needs to learn about is what leads people to commit suicide. Depression does not necessarily lead people to suicide. There are millions of depressed people who live their lives without taking their lives. People who take their lives need to have three things in common according to the research done by famed scientist Thomas Joiner- capacity to inflict lethal harm to oneself, thwarted belongingness and perceived burdensomeness ( leading to hopelessness).  Jyoti writes- “Sushant’s sister posted a picture on Instagram and wrote that he was not suffering from depression.” For starters, my wife Shweta did not say that. She shared a picture of Sushant’s near future plans from June end and mentioned that he was planning ahead. Planning ahead is a very positive sign of hopefulness. Though it does not guarantee, it still questions the prerequisite condition of hopelessness.

Second, let’s talk about the generalization of toxic Bihari families that can’t stand ‘girlfriends’

This is a preposterous generalization on many levels. Let’s start with Sushant. Many people know that Sushant dated Ankita for at least six years and they lived together for a good portion of that relationship. People have seen great pictures of Ankita and Sushant’s family together and almost everyone knows that some members of Sushant’s family, including my wife, are in constant touch with Ankita.

Sushant then presumably dated Kriti (although he did not explicitly mention that they were dating, so they might be just very good friends) and the last time we met him in July 2017, Kriti met with us as well. We were fond of Kriti too.

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This is where Jyoti’s stereotypical “toxic Bihari family” trope gets debunked. The FIR didn’t say that my father-in-law couldn’t stand Ankita. He actually adored Ankita and even stayed over in Mumbai with Ankita and Sushant. The FIR mentions one specific person called Rhea and giving it an anti-feminist flare is toxic journalism. 

Moving on to my family. I am from Bihar as well and my parents don’t have any toxic attitude towards my wife, who was also my girlfriend for nearly four years before I got married and we have been married for thirteen years.

Moving on to the state of Bihar in general. There are millions of well-educated middle-class families in Bihar where there is no toxic attitude towards their son’s girlfriends and spouses. I am sure there are some families with these attitudes but taking the experiences of some and painting it with a broad brush is another toxic journalism masterstroke. This perpetuates false narratives and incorrect stereotypes about families from Bihar and is cringeworthy and outright disgusting.

Finally, let’s talk about the familial disconnect

Jyoti writes, “A family cannot believe that a grown man doesn’t need a woman to tell him about his interaction with the world. A grown man can decide if he wants to distance himself from a toxic environment.”

Let me give you a perspective about human relationships Jyoti Yadav. A grown man can decide independently to distance himself from a toxic environment but a grown man can also be pressurized to distance himself from a healthy environment if there are enough incentives for the pressurizer and there are enough limitations on the part of the pressurized. Giving the FIR an anti-women color is not going to help women Jyoti Yadav.  This FIR is anti-Rhea and not anti-women and let it be proven in the court of law if it stands the ground. 

103 thoughts on “The toxic underbelly of journalism coming out to appease their masters?

  1. This Jyoti Yadav is a ‘Nobody’ and didnt deserve your time providing explanation for her rubbish comments. However, very well written and a slap on her face. I really hope that ‘Journalism’ is also Regulated in India or at least there is some principle based regulation to promote Responsible Journalism. We, the people have to do something to ban such journalists like Barkha Dutt et al. They all take money from the corrupts to run their small time shops in the name of journalism.

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    • Very truely said.. I am too crossing my fingers for justice..it was a murder..nothing else it could be.. his brother in law had explained it so nicely..he had just sliced Jyoti Yadav..I am very happy that she could get some mouthful.. so well written..

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  2. Vishal! Thank you for your blog, I live in the United States and totally relate to the grind of life here. It’s not easy to make time so I appreciate you writing this blog and the previous one on sushant. You are right to call out these journalist who are exploiting the women’s movement to shield a criminal. Their antics just dilutes the momentum and message of the women’s movement in India. Yes I agree, women are still largely discriminated against in India and that needs to change but journalists such as Barkha Dutt and Jyoti Yadav need to use their discretion and not perpetuate more stereotypes about a group of people. We all know where that leads us to. I have been following Sushant’s case and I am shocked at the mountain of evidence that are coming out against Rhea. I know this is not the family’s goal but I hope and encourage the family to recuperate all the stolen money from Rhea and her business. The money in sushant’s estate should be used to send more kids to space and to help more underprivileged kids.

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  3. So well written and informative
    I wholeheartedly agree with the author and his reaction to this cheap journalism
    Being a married bengali girl myself I want justice for this brilliant actor and bright mind and if there is a foul play by the lady in question she has to be dragged to justice
    WE SHOULD NOT GENERALIZE A Community and also believe that if the Bengali lady had committed this heinous crime it is not a reflection of the female race which the said journalist is also a part of

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  4. Dear Vishal
    BRAVO! Very well written. Everything you wrote was spot on. You made Sushant’s family proud. May we get justice for Sushant. God bless you. #Warriors4SSR
    #JusticeforSSR
    #BreakthesilenceforSushantSR

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  5. Dear Vishal,
    We are with the family and against the media who is supporting the depression theory. Common people dismissing the theory and everybody wants truth to come out. There is an anger among people everywhere regarding this case. Some “unknown”, “amateur” and “failure in life” Journalists are trying to establish themselves through this. please don’t bother about them. Public sab jaanti hai.

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  6. Please keep eye on Aaj Tak News Channel who is leading channel in India, and some left wing ideology news anchor who are trying to set an other narrative. Only Republic TV is doing a great job.

    #Warriors4SSR

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  7. Vishalji.. We are all supporting the family to get to bottom and get justice for Sushant .. Millions of prayers are being said for Sushant and the entire family .. I am a product ofa “totally non toxic Bihari family ” Accepted as a daughter in law for 41 years .. Loved , accepted and respected not bolt by my immediate in laws but by the entire extended family.. Please continue to stay strong and fight for justice .. Blessings and strength 🙏🏼🙏🏼

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  8. Brilliantly written by you wish Jyoti Yadav too had the same sensibility instead of pandering to the rich people who paid her!
    The article in print ends with the site asking for money when it’s extremely evident that they are paid to write articles to change public perception for the rich and infamous.

    Here’s hoping ssr gets justice

    Yours truly,
    An Indian who is sick of the pillage by the rich and morally bankrupt of the innocent

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  9. Vishal I guess by now you should know that our country in full of fake journalists who do not even know 10% of the facts and wants to be in limelight by writing something that will attract attention towards them. Otherwise who is Jyothi Yadav??? Is she relating to her own story to sell??? This case is against Rhea and her family who were surely toxic as things are for now. And for this stupid Susan to even comment on Sushants mental conditions is insane and she should be sued. Barkha was good but success got into her mind and she has turned the most stupid journalist and is being banned all over. Why are you even wasting your valuable time on these wasted people whom no one knows and they are trying to get fame by selling stories. The FIR submitted by your father in law only has one name Rhea and her associates. It didnt even link to Disha death. It’s only the distorted minds that are seeing things that are unrelated to get fame….so just ignore them to have peace. Your family is already going through a lot and you dont need to give damn to these toxic people…take care.

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  10. Today, journalism has become a way to create controversial soup to gain that small amount of fame.
    The article by Jyoti Yadav is nothing but her tryto get that small readership who is inclined towards reading controversies and massage the egos of people who still stereotype cultures, races, religions, sexes blah blah blah. Just ignore.

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  11. Totally agreed….here they have forgotten that this Bihari family have given him wings to fly and make a remarkable impact in the society. His upbringing and simplicity have been loved by everyone. All his female co-stars praise him like anything. The credit goes to his Bihari family background.

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  12. Some pertinent points to be raised by family : Any medical ailment and especially if it is related to mental health can have genetic predisposition. Family history and medical history in childhood are important steps to be validated by any psychiatrist or counsellor. How was that then Sushant’s medical practitioner diagnosing and prescribing medicine without meeting family members. How was Rhea taking accountability on behalf of the family without having any authorisation from blood relations. I wish the media focuses on clear lapses on behalf of this girl and her family including the doctors rather than bringing up baseless rudimentary thoughts that India has moved far away from.

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  13. I just loved reading your post… And so agree with the term ‘toxic journalism’. Also a very valid point..it’s ‘anti Rhea’ not ‘anti feminist’. People in India is stereotypical… When will we get out of our shells???? Generalizing is so convenient. Also I found many people accusing Bengali girls… All those nut cases just love to stimatise the society..well, I am a Bengali girl too and I support Sushant…I desperately want justice for him… Anyway, such kind of toxic journalism should be completely stopped and also be opposed by us. I am so thankful to you Sir for writing this article. Sometimes we need to address certain issues rather than being quite… Also I highly appreciate your articulation. More power to you and your family. #justiceforsushant #Warriors4SSR

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  14. Vishal, kudos to you for a well-articulated, analytically superior piece of work. I was elated to see, how thread-by-thread, point-by-point, you have managed to rip apart a prejudiced, unintelligent writing that smells of vendetta and stereotypical thinking. I have been following Sushant’s case very closely, and while trying to refrain from speculation on the case (for lack of information, knowledge of law), I want to present to all readers some independent, relevant, but very personal data points that will help debunk some of the arguments and theories around “toxic” Bihari families that Jyoti Yadav presented in her article.
    I am a very proud Bihari girl, with my paternal home in Patna and with most of my relatives and cousins living across various areas of Bihar and Jharkhand ranging from Patna, Hazaribagh, Muzzaffarpur, Gaya, Ranchi and Jharkhand to name a few. That’s how “Bihari” my family and origins are. Now, let me show you how “toxic” this Bihar family of mine is. 35+ years ago, my father, hailing from this very Bihari family, put his foot down and married my “Bengali” mother. Lo and behold, no one complained of “Kaala Jadu” and my father was not touted the “Shravan Kumar” who was besotted and overpowered by an evil Bengali girl. Rather, my mother completed her masters after marriage and went on to complete her PhD when I turned 5. She travelled across India and the world with my father for work and I can still recall the strong familial ties that we maintained – we always went back to Patna at least twice a year to spend time with my father’s family. My Dadaji, a well-known scientist himself, adored my “Bengali” mother for her intelligence, simplicity and candor and would constantly tout her as a role-model to his other daughters-in-law who were very much from Bihar. I was always encouraged by him and the family to grow up as a strong, independent and opinionated girl, and I sure did grow up to be all of those. And let me remind all, that we are talking about an educated, middle-class Bihari family. Not only that, I went alone to pursue my MBA from an Ivy-League B-school in the US, am currently one of the youngest Directors at a large MNC and have lived and travelled across the globe for work and I did not have to rebel against my family to do any of this. For those, who may come back and say, “Well, you were the daughter of the family” – I have seen my Bhabhis being given these same opportunities which I received. This family of mine is one from a large sample of Bihari middle-class families and if I may dare say, we are not outliers. I hope this sheds some light on Bihari families and the how “toxic” they can be.
    Now, coming to the moot point – on that article from Jyoti Yadav – when I read it yesterday, I was appalled and disturbed. Appalled, because not only was it baseless, but was also criminal in nature because it was misusing the tool of feminism to defend an accused. I was disturbed because there was no channel available for me to give a befitting response to that shoddy piece of work that was devoid of both logic and data. Thanks to Vishal’s blog, I got this channel and trust me, it has been cathartic.
    Vishal, after having read the article, I totally agree on the following counts:
    1. Why would a family, that so willingly, happily and warmly accepted their son’s relationship with Ankita, a modern young girl working as a film artist would suddenly turn “toxic”, “protective” and dogmatic when the same situation repeats itself with another modern young woman? Common sense suggests that the onion needs to be peeled by a few more layers and the deeper reason needs to be dwelled on, which, of course, the journalist chose not to do.
    2. This fight for justice is against neither against womankind nor against Bengali women. Rather, this is a fight against an accused, who happens to be a woman.
    Let’s wait for the court of law to establish whether this was about a “toxic” Bihari family Vs a “modern” “Bengali” woman or was it about a bereaved family vs an accused (who in this case happens to be a woman)

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    • Miss Isha, Bihar has one of the worst sex ratios in the country, and it is worse in urban families than rural families. You may not like the author of the article saying Sushant’s family was affected by toxic masculinity (and it could just be a coincidence that they had several girls and then one boy), but don’t give us this garbage BS that Bihar does not have a massive cultural problem with sexism.

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      • Manjari – I appreciate your feedback minus the profanity. I do not personally know the author to either like or dislike her. But I surely do not appreciate what she wrote. But, all I can say is that she was articulating her unconscious bias in extremely nuanced situations, and I believe her writing was not backed by robust data or even logic. Sexism is not a Bihari problem, it’s a national and global problem. Moreover, our beliefs are a sum total of our experiences and upbringing and what I saw and experienced in not only in my family or the families that I was associated with was quite different. You may have had your share of experiences and you are entitled to your beliefs just as I am entitled to mine. All I am against is any form of generalisation or stereotyping, which the author was doing. Staying within the context of the article , if someone would have generalised a Bengali woman, my thoughts would have been along the same lines.

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      • I would also like to add the second part of my objection to this article – content and tone apart, it’s the timing of this article. It came at a very sensitive time and came across as a clear attempt to defend an accused through using some contorted notion of Bihari families alluding that the accused is innocent and that the entire case is a concoction of kinds due to the “toxicity” of the Bihari family in question. There is a clear lack of empathy with a family that has lost a loved member, a gifted, compassionate man with a bright future, who was also a beacon of hope and inspiration for them. Honestly, I was always personally inspired by Sushant’s way of thinking which totally resonated with me. The article totally undermined the gravity of the situation and gradient of pain, which even as an outsider I can tell would be unbearable for the family. It totally trivialized the situation making it out to be some kind of a “Bihari” problem and a Bihari vs Bengali family issue. My hope is that we will look beyond our parochial views to understand what the need of the hour is which is of course to stay away from generalizations and make this out to be a battle of the sexes or cultures or states – I’m afraid the stakes are much higher than that.

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      • Isha, sexism is more prevalent in Bihar than almost ANY other state in the country. Every sex-related statistic from sex ratio (one of the lowest) to female literacy rate (lowest) has Bihar performing horrendously.

        And if apparently well-educated daughters of Bihar such as yourself refuse to acknowledge this “robust data and logic”, then no wonder the state’s statistics are dismal.

        Unlike you, I am not generalizing based on my “anecdotal evidence”. I am using well-substantiated facts.
        I already mentioned in my earlier comment – I’m referring specifically to the author’s comment on Bihar’s culture (which you are strangely refuting despite cold, hard facts), not their inferences on Sushant’s family.

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  15. Very well written article…how clearly you have explained all points!As far as writers like Jyoti Yadav are concerned….I guess just writing nonsensical things to grab attention or web traffic doesn’t make her any journalist. I wonder how can she use ”toxic Bihari Families”, most normal Indian families are like that loving and accepting.,..what’s wrong with demanding a just and thorough investigation into a mysterious death of a much loved son? I hope with CBI the truth will come out and all guilty will be put behind bars.

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  16. Well explained. Jyoti Yadav should reply if she still has any mis understanding. Problem with THIS world….. opinions are free.

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  17. Well said. Just because you are a journalist, it doesn’t give anyone rights to assume things, strerotype things just to make a living out of writing. Sensitivity, basic common sense is lacking in many journalists today. Writing whatever you feel like about a person just to be heard by public should be condemned. Very befitting reply you have given. Well done .!!

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  18. More power and strength to you and the entire family. People with even little common sense can see through the intentions behind every news article that is written for Sushant these days. There cannot be a better reply to Jyoti’s article.

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  19. Thank u so much vishal for giving a befitting yet polite reply to the puppet so called ms jyoti Yadav. When I read her article yesterday I was very saddened and shocked that someone from the same part of the state can poise her own community like this just for some peanuts. Shame on her I had also tweeted the same through my account but I guess people did not read it as am not a known person on the social media platform. Here’s the tweet link.

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  20. Hi Vishal,
    You absolutely nailed it with your, very lucid and exceptionally eloquent, write up! Bravo!
    This so called journalist, Jyoti, displayed her stupidity by stereotyping people of Bihar or India for that matter! For sure these are paid stooges out to obstruct justice. But their attempts will never bear fruit, we the public are with your family; Sushants family in this!
    I am really pleased you gave a fitting reply to this piece of s**t!
    Do not rest till the guilty is convicted!

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  21. Hope what you have written is as truthful as it seems to be, else you will be the first one to be blamed of toxic journalism.
    Btw, very convincing and very well written article

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  22. I am glad you took the time to write this because everything you said is cogent & logical. As for Jyoti Yadav, what she has shown in her article is her vile skewed mentality and her tendency to pigeon hole not only individuals but the populace of entire regions. What a narrow mind.
    This is also how suspect politicians & celebrities survive- through media campaigns that crucify victims and glorify all the vile divisive ideologies they propagate.
    I am appalled to see how Jyoti Yadav dares to point fingers at a bereaved family who lost a young promising 34 year old. Disgraceful – rather than reflecting on the brazen cold bloodedness of how we were brought to lose Sushant, she prefers name calling the bereaved. Shame on her.

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  23. O my God!!! Who is this Jyoti Yadav?? Probably she didnt even deserve this much time and attention from you Vishal. Kichad mei hath daalo to apna hath he ganda hota hai. But I understand the reasons too. I sooo feel for you and your family…. after going through so mych already, it’d be so exhausting to answer such brainless people, only bcoz they can blabber so they are blabbering senselessly. More people are with you and family wholehearedly. These fools only make a mockery of themselves. Public is not foolish like her. She is just below any level to even pay attention.

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  25. Vishal, befitting reply to Yadav. Majority of readers are sane and they know Jyoti Yadav is insane. There might be many Jyoti Yadav’s in the upcoming weeks becoz the investigation by Arnab Goswami has exposed true face of Mumbai sleep/Maharashtra corrupt machinery in the SSR death & they cannot hide anywhere in this social media age. Media trial was necessary.It breaks my heart to think how Rhea might have abused SSR in his last days.SSR was also it seems victim of domestic violence/abuse by the close live in partner.Abuser before abusing always isolates its victim from his/her friends and family. Rhea is a disgrace. Whole India & us NRI’s in US, UK, Australia are with SSR & his family. Sushant Singh Rajput was a very good soul and he has support of millions of fans all over the world. BTW, Boycott Bollywood is a reality in national and international social media conversations now.

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  26. To the family of sushant singh,

    As an indian, I am very so sorry that your family has to go through the BS public shaming & defaming by Rhea Chakraborty, the mumbai police & the shiv sena. The attack on sushant’s dad and sister is the most the despicable shit show I have ever seen & this kind of disgraceful attack on sushant’s family is NOT acceptable to me and to any sensible person.

    Please stay strong because the whole country is with you. I know the attacks are personal & they hit very hard. But please don’t take the bait because rhea & the Maharashtra govt are trying to instigate your family to attack them at personal level. I have so much respect for your wife & her sisters who have maintained calm & sensible without attacking anyone publicly at a personal level throughout these ordeals despite various personal attacks on the family. They are an epitome of grace, sushant’s dad must be proud of all his kids.

    India is watching everything & we will deliver justice to sushant’s family.

    PS: Personally, I don’t have the capacity to remain calm after seeing the audacity. greed. selfishness & shamelessness of rhea. That’s why I admire the grace & sensibilities of the family members of sushant for remain quiet & calm without attacking anyone publicly.

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  27. I understand and Vishal had some clear thoughts! I wish and wonder if Sushant was able to detect/sense Rhea early and kicked her out as soon as he could. We would have had our brilliant actor with us for years to come.

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  28. Vishal, I personally apologize to you for unknowingly, engaging in this debate around toxic Bihari families, which probably digressed people from the moot issue around justice for Sushant here and has led them to defend the point around toxicity of Bihari families in the article. I have made my views very clear, but do realize that this should not be the point of discussion here – it should be about justice for Sushant. I am totally in support of the family and am confident that justice shall be done. Why will it not be done – He was a great man with lofty goals, string of achievements and a kind heart, a combination anybody would kill for and God will be fair. I am sure you must be proud of him just as the country is.

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      • I thought you have some new info….and I think you could be right that it was jealousy that made the political people like Aditya Thakeray kill Sushant Singh Rajput. You must have heard that Aditya Thakeray has a patent that Sushant was developing and he wanted to take all the credit for it and the millions or billions of profit. Sushant was researching AI everyone knows this…… there was so much political interests to kill this honest and genius man!! Oh god every day there is some new revelation that proves this just cannotttttttt be a suicide how are ppl so blind

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    • first of all i have so many Bihari friends and they are all really well-educated. Everyone knows all the IITS are filled with Biharis and yet so many lies in the article. i am from bangalore but even i kow that Biharis are the most well educated women in the country and the friends i have are very modern.
      and for sushant…… every man woman and child know Aditya Thakeray and Rhea were working together to destroy sushant and get his money and patents. disha salian’s parents are also lying because aditya thakeray has given them bribe or threaten to destroy them too #JusticeForSSR #ArrestRheaNow #ArrestAdityaThakerayNow

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  29. To the people above attacking Vishal, claiming to be experts on bipolar /mental illnesses because they are patients themselves. It is amazing to see that people who have suffered themselves are so blind to other people’s suffering and attacking/accusing is the only mode of communication you can bring to the discourse. You perhaps don’t understand grief or have never experienced it or you wouldn’t have reacted like this. The suffering that comes with grief (esp while grieving a family member’s unexpected loss) far surpasses suffering resulting from any form/degree of mental illness or consequential societal /professional treatment/repercussions that come with it. There is no medicine, no treatment, absolutely nothing in this world that can help with grief. It never goes away or reduces even slightly in degree (people just learn to live with it). Patients of mental illnesses still have whatever little modern medicine has to offer to seek help from and manage their illness. Grief however has nothing to fall back on. When you lose a family member to causes that are unclear or unknown or not understood at first (or there is knowledge of the affliction/situation but the outcome is unexpected and shocks/belies your analysis of the situation), a long struggle begins (in some cases, lifelong) for the surviving family to understand, investigate, research and process what took their loved one away (while you were aware but could do nothing to prevent it). If one is lucky, you will find answers. Most people who are grieving in similar situations never find closure though.

    Its saying something that the writer still has the grace to not turn off the comments after being so senselessly attacked. People should not get an automatic platform for trolling or attacking a grieving family member with such insensitivity by falling on the crutches of their experience as patients (or professionals involved in mental health). They are most certainly not in the position or any authority to lecture/teach anyone because mental illnesses are a very wide range /spectrum of affliction and no one person’s experience with the illness or related suffering is the same. Otherwise it would have been been far easier to diagnose and treat people suffering with mental illnesses. Anyone lecturing others with such arrogance and authority on the subject because they are patients or psychologists/psychiatrists should know better than doing that (from their own experience).

    Nor would most of society give any credence to “yellow” journalists who are communal and racist to attack a group of people based on their regional origins. Even western tabloids don’t stoop to the level of coverage we have seen the Indian mainstream media do in this case (whether it’s Barkha, Arnab, the myriad Hindi news channels or this unheard of but confidently racist and anti Bihari journalist).

    Let the family grieve and process their grief in whatever way brings them some solace. If it’s writing, researching, discussing on a public forum about the background of Sushants life and health and their understanding of it, it’s not your place to lecture or attack or “educate” them. You don’t know what Sushant might have gone through (the way his family or close friends would have known) no matter how much first hand experience you have on the speculated subject(s) and the opinion of Sushants family doesn’t affect your life directly in any way so don’t scream blue murder. They have lost a brother while you are just smarting from imagined social slights or repercussions that might impact you as a result of a family member trying to defend /speak for a brother in law who is no longer here to defend or speak for himself against merciless, schadenfreude ridden public speculation.

    There are other readers on this forum (and on the wider platforms covering this case) who also suffer from debilitating mental illnesses and /or have lived through grief. Please don’t assume you are settling any record straight on any subject because quiet a few of us have experienced both ourselves.

    Its not your life or your loss or your grief so kindly stop aggravating someone’s loss and suffering with your toxic verbal diarrhoea.

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  30. Vishalji, It is very clear from Jyoti Yadav’s article that in journalism there are writers who are hired to ‘create’ a narrative, then keep fueling a rhetoric and those who pursue the path to write the truth. For outsiders like us, we can see a crystal clear approach in creating a narrative right from day one about Sushant’s mysterious death. In the recent past, if we look at all the mysterious death’s of Bollywood film industry, right from Divya Bharati, to Silk Smitha, to Sridevi, to Pratyusha Banerjee, to Disha Salian, to more recently Sameer Sharma, in none of these cases, even a single crime scene photo was leaked to the general public. In Sushant’s case, under the watchful eyes of the first respondents be it Mumbai Police, so called crime scene Forensic teams, a full length video is shot and leaked to the public. This is just not possible unless someone had deliberately written a screen play of event upfront and ensured that there will be this entity who will be shooting these scenes, that will be used to convince the general public about what they wanted to convey – The depression & suicide angle.
    All of us who have been watching the Indian serial CID for many years now, know that it is the on-screen glorification of the Mumbai police. And what do we see in that crime drama, episode after episode? An officer visits the crime scene with his team, they first cordon off the area with a police line tape. After the initial ‘panchanama’ (Section 100 under Chapter VII of The Code of Criminal Procedure, 1973, (Cr.P.C.)., the sub inspector in-charge of the investigation calls hawk-eye inspector Pradhyumann and the first person this Inspector Pradhyumann speaks to, is the Forensic expert & Autopsy specialist, who then gives him clues as to what could have happened and how the crime would have been conducted.
    Did any of these things happen is Sushant’s case? Well, No. The police officers, were surely there to do something else & by now we all know what that is, from the various analysis presented by many learned and qualified investigators on public domain.
    We the people, have to rely on classic crime drama/detective TV series like NYPD Blue, Columbus, Murder She Wrote, to understand what happens in a crime scene. Invariably in all cases, the first suspects are those who were around before the death happened and they remain suspects until proven innocent and in Sushant’s case none of those entities (media manager, assistant, cook etc.) were rounded off for serious questioning. In fact, one of the helpers was seen working with the police and the paramedics to clear out the body as soon as possible while dumping polyethene bags, supposedly containing forensic evidences. Even, in the Arushi murder case, the parents, the servant and his friends were the first suspects. It is unbelievable, that in Sushant’s case, they were all let go to continue on with their lives as though nothing happened.
    So, no matter however loud the rhetoric about depression and suicide gets, the youth of the country and many other parts of the world have come to realize that this case is perhaps the most atrocious cover-up in the history of post-Independence India.
    The Supreme Court of India has a huge task on hand by this August 15th – the 74th Indian Independence Day and that is to assure the youth of the country that India indeed is Independent with a judiciary that is second to none. Satyameva Jayate. Jai Hind.

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